Man defends decision not to give up bus seat when asked by pregnant woman

A man has been slammed by his own family after he refused to give up his seat on the bus to a pregnant woman by arguing that “it’s not my fault she decided to have a baby”.

After his car was written off in a crash, the man has been getting the bus to and from work while he waits for the insurance to pay out to buy a new one.

He says his job involves him being on his feet for the entirety of his 10-hour shifts and that he “genuinely cherishes” the time sitting down on the bus ride home knowing he still has a 20 minute walk home from the bus stop “which means more time on my feet”.

But his actions on one journey home infuriated fellow passengers, his family, and people on the internet after he defended his decision not to give up his seat to a pregnant passenger.

He wrote: “So last night I’m on the bus, and a very heavily pregnant lady gets on. She looks around for a seat, only to find there are no available ones left.

“I’m the closest to her, so she starts giving me the imploring eyes. I had my headphones on and tried to pretend I couldn’t see her, but once she started talking to me it became inevitable.

“I wasn’t rude or anything, I just told her no, I’ve had a long day and my feet are sore. I don’t want to give up my seat.

“She started crying about how she’s a pregnant single mom, and I told her I’m sorry, but that was her personal choice and she can’t expect other people to accommodate her life choices.

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“We live in a state where birth control and abortions are free, so I don’t know why this should be my problem. It’s not my fault she decided to have a baby when she can’t afford a car.”

He says an elderly man who witnessed the exchange called him “worthless punk” and gave up a seat instead, but he “just looked the other way and ignored it”.

When he got home, he told the story to his family who couldn’t believe what he had done, but the man argued: “I don’t know why we need to keep perpetuating the idea that breeding somehow means your entitled to people’s seats.”

After sharing the story on Reddit in the hope of finding some back up, it divided opinion as some people did agree that they considered him to have done nothing wrong.

One person said: “You don’t owe anything to anyone that makes different life choices. Completely agree on this with you, just because she’s pregnant, she doesn’t get to have her way, she could’ve gotten the seat from someone else but chose to make a scene. “

But others slammed him, as another raged: “Did you know that being heavily pregnant really alters your balance, let alone the tired thing?

“No, you didn’t ask her to be pregnant, but you can, as an able-bodied otherwise healthy person just choose to be nice. Bringing up the contraception/abortion/’breeding’ angle too really makes you an a**.”